Work and Human Relationships Connected by Casual Conversation
Hello!
When I am writing an article and have decided on a theme, the part I have the most trouble with is the introduction. It is good to start with the main topic right away, but I would like to take a pause if possible. I am not sure how to explain the main topic and how to connect it to the main topic. It may take a lot of time just to think about this.
Conversations with people are quite similar. You want to gradually build a connection with the people you meet in your personal life, as well as with those you have a relationship with in your work. You may be wondering how to do this.
For example, if you are working with someone for the first time, you might suddenly say, “Hello! Let’s talk about your job! It is not easy to say, “Let’s talk about your work! Even if you could, the other person would probably be surprised. It is likely that work discussions will proceed smoothly only when both parties know each other’s character and have a relationship of trust.
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Good “chit-chat” to be able to do when connecting relationships.
When building a relationship of trust with others, “idle talk,” or “small talk,” is helpful.
Work conversations tend to focus on efficiency, but sometimes idle chitchat can lead to surprisingly deep relationships of trust. It is likely that business ideas will sometimes emerge from such small talk.
Small talk has the power to naturally bring you closer to the other person. Sharing topics away from work-related topics provides an opportunity to get to know each other’s personalities and creates a sense of trust. For example, the simplest conversation would begin with “greetings” and “how are you/how are you doing? This is the first step in easing the tension between the two parties and creating a relaxed and natural exchange. As a result, the distance and barriers between you and your partner will decrease.
For example, by learning about the other person’s values and interests, even from a small talk about the weather or a light conversation about hobbies, it is easier for both parties to empathize with each other. It could be said that by “sharing” about work and non-work topics, a more trusting relationship can be created.
Topics seemingly unrelated to business often become clues to understanding the other person’s needs and values, facilitating communication. An atmosphere of easy cooperation will be created even in casual situations, and a relationship with that person will be created smoothly.
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How exactly are we going to talk about this?
Even if it is said that chit-chat is important, it is not natural to start by saying, “Come on, let’s have a chat! Let’s have a chat. Also, if you wait for the other person to initiate the conversation, you will never know if the conversation will get started. It would be better if you could offer a topic of conversation, but there may be cases where you are not sure what to talk about.
What I recommend is a topic that is common to everyone and easy to talk about.
weather
Recent news (preferably positive would be better)
tastes
Talk about your region (if offline, about the same region; if offline, about each other’s regions)
These are the topics that are easy to ask about and easy to answer. It is also a good idea to ask about any information that the other person has publicly announced beforehand so that you can make them feel that you are interested in them. I am not good at thinking of a theme or starting a conversation, but for example, if you have communicated with the other party via e-mail before the meeting, you can introduce yourself by saying, “I am Fatty, the person in charge of e-mail communication,” or by saying, “This is the first time we have talked in person. I will start by saying, “Thank you for always responding promptly to my inquiries.
If possible, it is a good idea to not talk only to yourself, but to listen to what the other person has to say and create an opportunity for the next conversation. If you are nervous about talking with people outside the company, you may want to start by communicating with people inside the company with whom you have a certain level of rapport.
Let’s have a casual conversation and be proactive!
In this way, by having a casual chat at the beginning of or in between work sessions, you can provide a cushion for your relationships and help build good working relationships. Try incorporating “idle chitchat” into your next meeting. Even just a few words of conversation can start a relationship of trust.
